How to Remove Character Defects

How to remove character defects

Since its genesis by Alcoholics Anonymous in the 1930s, the 12-step program remains one of the most widespread and effective alcohol and drug abuse interventions. As you go through the program, you’ll encounter the fourth step, which requests you to conduct an honest life evaluation to see how your character defects hinder your recovery journey. Conducting such a self-analysis isn’t easy, but it’s necessary if you’re to proceed to the other eight steps successfully. So, what exactly are character defects and shortcomings, and how can you remove them?

What Is a Character Defect?

A character defect is anything in your personality that negatively affects your thinking and behavior. It determines how you interact with the world and the people around you. Some defects can even drive you to hurt the people you love mentally, emotionally or physically.

The AA program uses the phrase “character shortcomings” synonymously with character defects. Character defects or shortcomings contribute to negative behavior patterns. Through the 12-step program, you can identify the character defects that add to your alcohol and drug abuse issues and work on them to move to a healthier space.

List of Common Character Defects

An endless number of character defects exist, each affecting our thoughts and behaviors differently. To successfully undertake the fourth step, identify the actual character shortcomings rather than their outcomes.

The list of AA character defects includes these 30 personal shortcomings:

  • Anger
  • Apathy
  • Bigotry
  • Cowardice
  • Criticizing
  • Cheating
  • Dishonesty
  • Egotism
  • Excessiveness
  • Fear
  • Greed
  • Guilt
  • Hatred
  • Hopelessness
  • Impatience
  • Jealousy
  • Kleptomania
  • Laziness
  • Manipulation
  • Negative thinking
  • Overcompensation
  • Pride
  • Procrastination
  • Resentment
  • Self-importance
  • Self-pitying
  • Thoughtlessness
  • Unfaithfulness
  • Vulgarity
  • Wastefulness

AA lists these shortcomings as character defects because they contribute to persistently negative behavior patterns that are detrimental to you and those around you.

Do I Have All Character Defects?

Human beings aren’t perfect, so we all have character defects with varying degrees of severity. Looking around, you can identify some personality traits your loved ones possess that limit them from achieving their full potential.

Fortunately, it’s almost impossible to have all the character defects simultaneously. While many character shortcomings may feed into each other, the average person isn’t completely made up of defects.

If you have one or more AA character defects, don’t think you’re an evil, irredeemable human being. The fact that you’re trying to identify your character defects and work on them means you still have a chance to improve your life.

Resolving your AA character defects won’t automatically eliminate your drug and alcohol issues and vice versa. However, the 12-step program can help you holistically improve your life beyond managing alcohol and drug use.

How To Identify Your Character Defects

1. Introspect

The first step to identifying your defects is introspection. The 12-step program refers to this process as making a fearless moral inventory. It involves looking inward to see what drives your actions.

Knowing what personal characteristics qualify as defects may be difficult if you’ve never done a thorough introspection before. The fact that there’s no exhaustive list of character defects can make the process even harder.

To make it easier, pass each quality through a brief analysis to see if it qualifies as a shortcoming. A simple way to do the analysis is by using two levels of questions to evaluate each characteristic to understand whether it’s a character defect.

For the first level, ask yourself:

  • How does this quality make me behave?
  • What are the consequences of the resulting behavior?

If answers to both questions are negative, then the quality is a character defect. You can then forward to the next round of questioning by asking:

  • How does this character defect contribute to my substance abuse problems?
  • How does the character defect affect my recovery journey?

2. Record

Records of your introspection’s results prove invaluable when you work on removing character defects.

You can use any method to record your character defects. Many people journal their shortcomings on paper or digital diaries. If you aren’t much of a writer, you can use sound or video recordings.

Make a list of character defects as you identify them, ensuring none are left behind. Note how each shortcoming contributes to what you think and how you behave. Evaluate how the defects affect how you treat yourself and others. Most importantly, be honest about how the defects affect your journey to recovery.

What To Do With Your List of Character Defects

1. Actively Work on Removing Defects

Knowing which parts of your personality prevent your life’s progress is not enough. You must adopt honesty, humility and diligence when you set out to remove character defects.

Research qualities that are the direct opposite of each shortcoming on your list of character defects. Try to display these new characteristics in your daily life.

Some people have found working on one defect at a time a good way of making progress. Go back to your character defects record and pick one you can improve on for a specific period.

For example, if you identify the defect of thoughtlessness, try showing others small acts of thoughtfulness. Do a chore around the home that normally falls to your spouse or get groceries for your neighbor, parent or friend. When you’re out, make a point of giving several unhoused individuals some change.

2. Be Patient

You didn’t develop negative characteristics overnight, so you shouldn’t expect to get rid of them instantly. Much like sobriety, removing character defects is a lifelong journey.

Expect to fall short of the new standards to which you’re trying to hold yourself, especially at the beginning.

When you resort to your old ways, don’t make excuses or try to rationalize the bad behavior. Instead, be humble enough to accept your mistakes and restart the process of removing character defects.

3. Get Help

Over 2 million people worldwide follow the AA model for alcohol abstinence. Thus, you may be at step four simultaneously with hundreds of thousands of them. Instead of trying to go at it alone, contact your local AA group to connect with a support system.

Getting help from people who understand what you’re going through will give you a basis for persevering in your recovery journey. A healthy support system will keep you accountable and cheer you on as you work to remove character defects.

You can find such a strong support system at Restore. We offer both inpatient recovery and outpatient 12-step programs to dozens of people. You can build a robust and supportive community with others experiencing the same challenges and success as you. Call now at (877) 594-3566 to see how our experts can help you remove character defects and successfully walk the path to recovery.